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Nsights: The Allure of Toxic Leadership

A GREAT read!

allureAnd so timely, as the subtitle of this book is, “Why We Follow Destructive Bosses and Corrupt Politicians– and How We Can Survive Them.”

This is for anyone who works in or has witnessed a dysfunctional organization, department, or unhealthy team/board. Too many of us have battle wounds from these individuals and teams – but why do we stay? How do we manage through those experiences?

“These intriguing leaders first charm but then manipulate, mistreat, undermine, and ultimately leave their followers worse off than they found them.” You may have seen this leader in your own organization. Or, worse you may not realize the toxicity some individuals are bringing to the team. This interesting book examines the dysfunctional leader’s traits, characteristics, and behaviors. Watch out.

Written by Jean Lipman-Blumen, you will surely connect with the content and have a new “eyes wide open” viewpoint on leadership after reading this book.

Nsights on:  New Year’s Resolutions

Every year I see the same dynamic at my gym. The parking lot is jam packed in January and February. All the New Year’s “resolutioners” are working hard on their commitment to themselves with the start of good, healthy exercise habits. Classes are full to exercisers wearing brand new workout gear and there are actual waiting lines for the weights and cardio equipment.

By March, I can easily find a parking spot and I have plenty of space in the classes to do a burpee without hurting anyone or myself. As you can see, I’m not sold on the concept or practice of setting resolutions. It’s too easy to give up once you feel like you’ve failed.

For 12 years now, I’ve chosen a theme for my year over a single behavioral commitment. My first theme was “An Attitude of Gratitude” when I was pregnant with my daughter. There have been many themes related to less stress and more balance. In 2013, I chose “De-crapify!” and last year I continued that theme but made it more time bound with “365 Fewer Things.” I actually gave away, donated, or ditched over 400 items in my house that weren’t used, appreciated, or loved. That felt great!

For me, it’s a lot easier to have an overarching behavioral philosophy to guide my thinking and actions. Unlike a resolution, if I forget or slow down, I can easily jump back into it. Because I’m pretty public about it (keeps my toes to the fire you see), it’s been super fun to see others adopt the same practice.

Sometimes the theme comes to mind easily, other times it’s a stretch to think about what I want to focus on for an entire year. Around December, friends and colleagues start asking what my theme is and so, in turn, I’ll ask my friends what they’ve chosen. Last year I asked my good pal Anne Arseneau in December during a lunch date… obviously, Anne wasn’t quite ready to commit as I got a little finger-waggin’ to lay off!

This year I’ve felt the pressure. Nothing super-compelling came to mind. I really, really loved “de-crapify” because it helped me get rid of belongings, eat less junk, spend less time on Facebook, unsubscribe from email lists, and enjoy cleared out drawers and closets.

So, why refrain from a good thing? This year is my PINTEREST PURGE.

I love Pinterest.

Being a visual learner, I see interesting foods, outfits, inspirational quotes on cool posters, book titles, and I pin them with good intentions of cooking fabulous meals or maybe feeling like I have some sort of personal style. But, truth be told, I’m a Pinterest hoarder. I pin away but never create that cute craft out of Mason jars. I don’t bake those delicious looking and healthy carrot cake with cream cheese filled muffins. I don’t buy the mustard colored skirt… even though I have nine different photos of mustard skirts in varying lengths. I have 20 public boards with over 1000 pins. I actually have pins which have given me 98 ways to tie a scarf. Never mind that I only tie it three different ways.

This year I will bake that yummy bread. I will use, then delete the instructions for the cute home decorations. I will purge. Period.

 Stay tuned…


What would your theme be?

 If you looked at your behaviors from last year, what would others say was your behavioral theme?

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